Do you test your manners?

To end our week on manners we go to Wendell Willkie who said a great truth, “The test of good manners is to be able to put up pleasantly with bad ones.”

55 word story:

Mary Young is the author – the title: Death of a Neighbor

My neighbor died yesterday. Roberta was a large woman with auburn hair I admired. Though a private person, she was passionately interested in me. Her adoration confused me. I barely knew her. After the funeral, Roberta’s nephew handed me an inscribed hatbox. It read: “For lovely Catherine – my auburn wig. Your neighbor, Robert Whiting.”

Joke of the week:

A bank had been robbed three times by the same bandit in the space of two months, and on each occasion he escaped with a substantial amount of cash. After the third raid, a senior detective was brought in to quiz the bank teller in the hope of unearthing some clues. “Have you noticed anything distinctive about the robber?” he asked. “There is one thing,” replied the teller. “Each time he turns up, he’s better dressed.”

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Happy manners!

Ralph Waldo Emerson said this, “Manners are the happy ways of doing things; each one a stroke of genius or of love, now repeated and hardened into usage.”

It made me happy to read “Manners are the happy ways of doing things.” Isn’t that a great way to look at it? Saying “Please” and “Thank you” are the happy ways of doing things! What other happy ways of doing things can we spread today?

“Mind your manners is a double call to action – use your mind and manners and all your relationships will improve!” Shawna Schuh

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How do you behave in a quarrel?

Today we have another great quote on manners from George Bernard Shaw who said, “The test of a man or woman’s breeding is how they behave in a quarrel.”

This got me to thinking – how am I in an argument? Am I fair, do I listen? One thing I’ve come to realize is that I am hurtful when I am hurt and recognizing that helps me be less so.

“It’s the smallest things that show a person’s manners: opening a door, putting things away, smoothing life for others. Each day we have the opportunity to show our manners and love others more.” Shawna Schuh

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Subtle manners

Today’s quote is a favorite and moves past the situations of our fairly frantic days, it’s from George Bernard Shaw who said, “The great secret is not having bad manners or good manners or any other particular sort of manners, but having the same manner for all human souls; in short, behaving as if you were in heaven, where there are no third-class carriages, and one soul is as good as another.”

This is a beautiful thought I think – in heaven when we are all the same saved souls – what a glorious vision that is!

“Manners are those subtle things that smooth out the bumps and lumps that life puts in our journey.” Shawna Schuh

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Do manners really matter?

This weeks theme is manners – something I know a lot about having taught etiquette, finishing, and fashion for over 3 decades. Wow, that sounds like such a long time!

I’ve noticed that though the rules of etiquette have changed,  manners remain constant; manners are about us, our view of the world and others. It’s how we choose to show up and be – manners are a vital people skill.

Our first quote, for and about manners, is from Lord Chesterfield who said, “Prepare yourself for the world, as athletes used to do for their exercises; oil your mind and your manners, to give them the necessary suppleness and flexibility; strength alone will not do.”

We must oil our manners; by knowing them, using them, and having our manners be of benefit to others.

“A person with manners is a person who helps others feel they matter.”  Shawna Schuh

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Are you faithful?

The last quote this week on loyalty is from Seneca and it is also a good call to action, “It goes far toward making a man faithful to let him understand that you think him so; and he that does but suspect I will deceive him, gives me a sort of right to do so.”

A final short quote on the heart to add value here from William Shakespeare, “A light heart lives long.” May we all have light hearts!

The 55 word story for the week! This one by J. Ripp and is titled: Fate

This was the only way, such a blur of rage and bliss and hurled toasters as our time together had become.
Appeal to fate: heads, we’d marry, tails, we’d separate forever.
The coin flipped, thudded, skipped and lay still, and eagle showing.
We stared as it sank in.
Then, together, “Best two out of three?”

Joke of the week:
A movie director was testing Sylvester Stallone and Arnold Schwarzenegger for a new film about classical composers.
The director said to Stallone: “who do you fancy playing, Sly?”
Stallone looked down the list of characters and said: “I’d like to play Mozart.”
Then the director turned to Schwarzenegger. Arnie said simply: “I’ll be Bach.”

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Are you a loyal friend?

Socrates gives us some great advice on loyalty, he said, “Think not those faithful who praise all thy words and actions, but those who kindly reprove thy faults.” And isn’t that what good friends are for?

Note: I looked up the word reprove to make certain I knew what I think my friends should do… it means to take to task, scold etc. – not the most gracious thing, however if it’s done in love, with a big heart, I’d rather have my friends take me to task than someone I hardly know!

Then something about the heart – and travel for you… Donald C. Peattie said, “No matter how widely you have traveled, you haven’t seen the world if you have failed to look into the human hearts that inhabit it.”

What a wonderful reminder to really “see” people around you – that’s a way to build loyalty!

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Loyalty is worth its weight in gold

Philip D. Armour said this, “There is one element that is worth its weight in gold and that is loyalty. It will cover a multitude of weaknesses.”

What I took from this is with humans – with each other – when your friends are loyal you forgive them much – when your lover is loyal – it’s wonderful and can make even not the ideal more wonderful – knowing that another is loyal to you is a gift – and we can get that gift best by showing loyalty to others.

Malcolm Forbes said this which also goes with Loyalty, “to measure the man, measure his heart.” I like that – and it is measurable and those with the best people skills have a mighty heart for others.

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People Skills Contest! Give us Your Best One Liner for Rude Behaviors

Who knew the topic of cell phone etiquette would get so much response? I guess I figured it would, but it was eye-opening just the same.

When the NBC affiliate here in Portland asked me to be the etiquette expert on a piece on cell phone rudeness – what to say etc. it was a tad bit surprising when someone wrote in with the comment: “Besides horse-whipping them…” Okay – so passions run high on rude!

Because of some technical errors not everyone who wanted to was able to comment on how to deal with rude people – so I’m giving you the opportunity now! AND I’m making it a contest!

Here are the guidelines:

What: One Liner Responses for Rude Behaviors Contest

When: Now – you can submit your best, most effective, or funny (and always clean and kind) comments here:

Time frame: Act now! We’ll shut the contest down by this Friday November 13, 2009 at 8 PM

Prizes!

We’ll be sifting through your one liner responses and giving some great People Skills products to those that are our favorites. Up for grabs are: DVD’s, CDs, and MP3’s on People Skills for your enjoyment. Curious about our catalog of products? Check them out here: http://shop.shawnaschuh.com/main.sc

Note: You can submit as many one liners as you like – as long as it’s before this Friday – so keep em’ coming!

How to: Put in whatever scenario happened and your one liner response:

Example:

Scenario: When someone is on two separate phones talking to two different people at the same time.

One liner: “Please call me back when you have more time to talk.”

One liner: “I’ll drop off now so you can give the other caller the benefit of your attention”

One liner: “I’m confused here… you’re not talking to two of us on different phones are you?”

Now it’s YOUR turn. What situation have you found yourself in where a one liner would have come in handy? Share your ideas, win prizes and more importantly – I’ll compile them for future ezines which will help others!

Thanks for your ideas!

Blessings,

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Shawna Schuh, CSP

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Traveling on paths that have heart

Maurice R. Franks said this, “Loyalty cannot be blueprinted. It cannot be produced on an assembly line. In fact, it cannot be manufactured at all, for its origin is the human heart – the center of self-respect and human dignity. It is a force which leaps into being only when conditions are exactly right for it – and it is a force very sensitive to betrayal.”

When I was a young girl and making first friends, it was vital that my friend would keep my confidences – those fears I shared in secret – and when another betrayed my faith, it was such a painful act of disloyalty; however, it was the training ground of the character we build from being betrayed, even in our own minds and from not being betrayed, which is the most glorious feeling – this is how we decipher our friends.

The first quote inspires me to add another around the heart – I found beautiful things there and have not included any quotes on the heart so far – Loyalty week is a good time!

This small section from The Teachings of Don Juan: A Yaqui Way of Knowledge, by Carlos Castaneda says it for me:

Choose your path with care. Follow only those you feel strongly to follow. If you feel the path is not right for you, you must not stay with it under any conditions. Look at every path closely and deliberately. A very old man told me about something important once. He was my benefactor and he talked with me when I was young… when my blood was too vigorous for me to understand it. Now I do understand. It is very important, and I will tell you what it is. Is it this:

“Does this path have a heart?”

My benefactor’s question has meaning now. “Does this path have a heart?” if it does, the path is good: if it doesn’t, it is of no use. When you are choosing a path, check it carefully to see if it has a heart.  If it does, it makes for a joyful journey. As long as you follow it, you are one with it. The path without a heart will make you curse your life. One makes you strong… the other weakens you…

For me, there is only traveling on the paths that have heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length. And there I travel, looking… looking… breathlessly…

And of course, here is today’s People Skills Video Tip:

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